Friday, June 15, 2007

So, let’s talk about one of the controversial topics in Perth now, Adoption Rights for Gay Couple. So the big news was a gay couple in Perth adopted a child recently. Apparently they have waited 3 years for this baby.

Initially, I was really taken aback by this idea. Not that I doubt the capability of this gay couple, just that I didn’t think they would have the maternal instinct to nurture the child the way a woman can. However, I am not saying that every single woman has maternal instinct to nurture children.

I have friends who are so against that idea because they think it is ruining the traditional ‘family’ idea, ruining the convention and it may bring bad impact to the growing child; they even think that child may turn up to be another gay/lesbian. Shame of myself, I did think about this when I first heard the news but I got around it eventually.

I am extremely gay friendly myself, but I have no idea what is it like growing up with gay parents who are not my biological parents. What if the gay couple are earning million of dollars annually and can give the best to this child? The more I think about it, the more I think that whatever it is, the child’s welfare should be the top most priority, and if these two men can give her the best, I have nothing against it. As whether or not he/she will become homosexual in the future; does it matter? It doesn’t really matter to the world if we have another gay/lesbian, seriously…

Then I thought “Gosh, the child wouldn’t have a mother figure to guide him/her, there isn’t a good ‘motherly’ example” Again, later I thought, how many women can be good examples nowadays? I see mothers who smoke in front of children; smack children in public; drink alcohol everyday; abandon their newborns in public places; giving birth for the sick of single parents benefits and etc. So whether this gay couple is appropriate or not, it is really not for us to judge because we don’t even know them!

At the same time, can you imagine the pressure this couple is facing? The discrimination? For the outsiders, maybe we should live with more compassion and be less judgemental.

For all my friends out there who are still disgusted by this incident, may I ask you to sit down and really think it through, think out of the box, think for the baby’s welfare then maybe you will see an entirely different picture.

1 comment:

tmz_99 said...

With the large amount on single parents these days, both men and women there are a lot of children missing on mother/father figures.
The fact that this child will have two parents, who look after and love her is what matters most.
The money issue is not really important, as a lot of money does not good parenting make.