Sex and The City

(Only read this post if you have seen Sex and The City, else this will be a super boring post)

I LOVE the movie, I love it so much that I watched it twice at the cinema alone. (I am a wierdo that enjoys watching movie by myself).

I believe every Sex and The City fan would enjoy the movie as much as I did. The movie did give the drama a good wrap up and ending, an ending that every Sex and The City fan is happy to see. Believe it or not, this movie did teach me a lot of things.

I came across a blogger who mentioned she couldn't understand why would Carrie forgive Big for leaving her right before the wedding after only 6 months. When I was watching the movie, I felt the same thing. And how could Miranda forgive Steve for cheating?

However, we should never judge one's relationship with someone. Carrie and Big been together for over 10 years, things that they been through could not be wiped off just like that. Love is not Mathematics, 1 + 1 may not be 2. So we may never understand why did Miranda forgive Steve, only they know why, but does it matter? They are happy....

Then Samantha asked "Does loving a person mean you mention his name 50 times a day, more than you mention yours?" "Does loving a person mean his needs come before yours?".

I thought about the questions, I do mention Matt a lot in front of my friends and colleagues (not 50 times a day for sure) and I always care for his needs, sometimes I may even put his needs before mine. Is that stupid? You may think I am, but I am happy to do that. Why judge me when I am doing something I enjoy?

Then you may ask me, does Matt put my needs before his. Yes and No..... depends on the needs I have. But Matt will let me do whatever I want as long as I am happy. So you see, 2 happy souls here, it doesn't matter who comes first, how we 'run' this relationship; there are no rules, as long as every stakeholder is happy. We do not have to report to anyone why we do this or that... and one should never judged us.

In the movie, Samantha loves Smith but she was not happy. She was not happy that his needs come first, she was upset that she was no longer who she was; and her misery was affecting Smith as well, so she left. I admired her courage for walking away from the one she loved for 5 years. She is a good example of "Be happy, life's too short".

Then Miranda forgave Steve in the end. Before she forgave him, they had a discussion with the marriage counsellor. Steve said he thought marriage was about 2 persons be together for the good and worst. They had the good times and Steve created the worst incident........

When Matt and I were going through a pretty rough patch, I said the exact line to Matt. I told him the day I said YES to be hig gf, I have made up my mind that I would be with him through the good and bad times, I wasn't going to walk away when the road gets rocky. Let's just say, after that incident and the 'talk', our relationship has gone to another level and we are still very happy together.

What I am trying to say is, when it comes to LOVE, there are no set rules. Outsiders will always judge us, there is nothing we can do but prove to them that we are truly happy.

Books

Once in a while, I will crave for books. I will buy a few books at once from book store or ebay. Then I will take my time to read them through.

I am currently on a books shopping spree again, looking for some books to read. Matt bought me 'Bringing Down The House' the real story behind the movie '21', about cards counting and such. I did not finish the book because I was not interested in cards counting really, and after I read how they count the cards, that's about it I guess? Cause that was the most important thing in the whole story?

I always go for books that are either inspiring or entertaining, in a nutshell, books that make me think and think about my life or make me laugh and laugh.

I enjoy reading Marian Keys book, currently looking at buying one of her bestsellers, 'Sushi for Beginners'. I was browsing Amazon.com and came across another book called 'Love the One You're With', seems very interesting. Unfortunately, it is very new thus ebay doesn't have this book on sale yet :(.

I have a problem now, I don't have space to keep my collection ><

Wii Fit

Last year, Matt bought a Wii Fit because I was so crazy over it. Then my excitement and enthusiasm died down a lot because the games became very boring and they were all the same.

Then Wii Fit was released and I was lucky enough, I managed to grab the second last Wii Fit in store (EB Games in Carousel). I was suprised to see Wii Fit is pretty accurate when it comes to measuring our weights, determining our postures and such.

According to Wii Fit, my BMI is ideal but I can lose another 5kg ( o.O ) to reach the perfect BMI of 22. Yea, tell me about it. Now, Matt will remind me to use the Wii Fit everyday to reach my goal weight.

I believe I can drop 5 kg if I use it religiously because my muscle are so sore now after a few sessions with Wii Fit, especially the Yoga and Muscle Workouts. :p

Study AGAIN....

I haven't mentioned, but I was recently promoted and now taking over the whole branch administration and accounting. My workload has increased tremendously but definitely makes my days go quicker. :)






Part of my promotion includes an accounting certificate course through TAFE. The course has just started and I have been busy studying. My next Feb pay review will depend on how well I do in this course. It is a 2 year course but I am expected to complete it within 10 months o.O.

Wish me luck!

New hair cut

New hair cut I got in late April. Somehow, it wasn't 'new' because it is pretty similar to my old hair style (before my perm hair style). Just that this hair is a better cut (I reckon).

:p

Oh well, at least it is something different from the curls.

Breakfast

Matt: I bought breakfast for tomorrow...!!!!

Me: Aww..... (feeling so sweet)

Matt: Here! *waving the pancake bottle* But you are cooking it.... *grin*

Me:.....................

Help the Burmese

I have done my part, I hope all my friends can offer a helping hand too :)

http://www.savethechildren.org/

Every dollar helps :)

The 5C's

I was talking to Alex today on MSN.

Alex: Now all the girls want 5Cs
Me: What are the 5Cs now?
Alex: Car, Career, Condo, Credit Card and....?
Me: Oh must be cash
Alex: Yaloh.... :(
Me: What are your C's then?
Alex: Charming, Creative, Caring, Cute and...?
Me: CRAP
Alex:.........................................................
Me: Hahahahahahaha

I am no longer his BABY

Mylo

Mylo always prefer male, I think it is because male won't call him in those high pitch girlie voice. However, Mylo simply loves Matt, he would snuggle up to Matt when he is watching TV.

Follow him around the house, lie right next to the chair when he is using the computer and...... Sleep on Matt when he knows Matt is awake in the morning, as seen in the pictures above. In the pictures, Mylo was literally lying on Matt, on his stomach. No matter how Matt asked him to move, he just refused to get down.

I was so jealous.... stupid dog, I am the one who feed you and wash you ok!??? Why didn't you snuggle up to me???

Jealous jealous.....

Easter Party

Invited some friends over last Easter to have some nasi lemak, roti prata and poker game.

Good fun everyone. I know this is a super late post but THANK YOU FOR COMING!!!

Some last mins pictures taken, I was so busy that I forgot to take pictures.

Made some Nasi Lemak and 2 types of curry, chicken curry and vege curry. I also cooked some sambal and fried ikan bilis to go with the rice, first time cooking them, not bad at all :p May post the recipes in my food blog when I have time.

The 'gamblers'...... I lost all my money, oh well... I mean..Matt's money....bwahahaha

MY Food Blog

Hehe

Started my first food blog, nothing fantastic but I did have fun cooking all the different dishes / cakes.


Kitchen Missy

一首歌

今天， 翻听李圣杰的旧唱片。听到了‘最近’。

“你想要的，我却不能够给你我全部。
我能给的，却又不是你想要拥有的。
我们不适合，也不想认输
好几次我们抱着彼此都是想要哭
你常解释这样的一切都只是开始
我觉得是所有的一切早就已结束
不想再约束，不要在痛苦
下一次会有更好的情路。。。”

每当我听到这首歌，心中难免有感触，让我回想到从前的点点滴滴，怀缅一些还没成功放开的心结。。。。

这首歌到低唱出多少人的心声啊？


愿天下有情人总成眷属。。。。。 甜甜蜜蜜

Food Blogs

Recently, I am addicted to reading food blogs. I was never a big cooking fan when I was living in Malaysia. I dont know why, but it was probably I have parents who can cook fantastic dishes, my dad is a great cook but my mom is good at cooking the food I love, such as sambal squid, steam minced pork wit salted fish and dry scallop etc.

My parents never bothered to teach me cooking because they thought I would somehow manage to find something to eat when I am hungry. o.O

After I moved to Perth, my parents weren't worried that I did not know how to cook at all, because I was living with my uncle and aunty.

My first cooking experience started when I was dating Adrian, I started cooking and expored more recipes. Then somehow, most of the stuff that I cooked was actually edible and quite yummy.

That's how I started cooking and so far I enjoy cooking a lot, the only problem is there are not many people around to eat the thing I cook. :(

I have too started a food blog, hahaha I am Kiasu... I have been posting on the food blog, just that I don't think it has enough content to be published. Will publish it soon.

KL Trip - Chinese New Year

So what happened when I was back in KL? Same old same old, Chinese New Year season, sales everywhere, super humid weather, shopping crowd everywhere, annoying Chinese New Year song everywhere.

Mom and Sis dragged me to shopping the very next day after I touched down in KLIA. They took me to Mid Valley to buy new clothes and shoes, you would expect since my mom forced me to go shopping, she would pay for me, but no, I paid for myself. Total spending:RM400.

Sister took us to ‘Tou Long’ for lunch, she said the ‘Siow Long Bao’ there is nice. Well, somehow, the chef fucked up that day and the food was pretty bad. Lucky the ‘Siow Long Bao’ was ok, think we had like 4 trays of that because my nephew loves them. He ate most of them.

The worst dish was the ‘Fried Durian’, geez.. absolutely disgusting! The durian was not fresh, the batter was soggy. Ewww… still prefer durian pan cake from the Shanghai restaurant in Avenue K.

Anyway, that lunch did kill my appetite for the rest of the day.

So more shopping after that day, I was determined to get myself another pair of jeans and few pairs of shoes. I can hardly find any nice shoes that fit me in Perth, and the jeans are always too long for me (Doh!) and the alteration is so expensive in Perth. So my jeans and shoes are always from Malaysia. Though I have more than 30 pairs of shoes sitting in the cupboard, but girls never have enough shoes ok!??

I didn’t eat a lot when I was back, I don’t know why but I just didn’t feel like eating much. I probably only eat 1-2 meals a day, maybe I am so use to my 5 small meals diet that my appetite has shrunk. Oh.. everyone told me I have lost weight *blush

Then everyone who gave me ang pow would ask when is my turn to give ang pow. I am so sick of that question, when is my turn to give, I will give ok!!!???? Just don’t expect me to give in Aussie dollars! The next time someone asks me why would I want to get married, I would say “Because I want to give ang pows”. By the way, if you don’t want to give ang pow to me, then keep it, just don’t ask when will I give your children some.

Overall, it was not a bad holiday after all. Short but I liked it, less nagging from parents and spent less money.

Oh, so in total….

4 pairs of shoes, 1 Gucci bag (thanks to mom), 2 pairs of jeans, 7 tops, 1 shorts, 1 necklace (from the inflight duty-free, I was bored!!). Oh, mom gave me a diamond ring as well, after numerous times of telling her than I don’t think I will ever get one from a man. Hahahaha

I come across many people with different intensions when it comes to relationship. Some would just like to have a companion, doesn't matter if they would get married or not, some with the motive of having a family, some looking for a husband to financially support them because they are less capable than other women, and ect.

Sometimes, I still question myself, what do I want? Karen always asks me what do I want..... which I have to admit, quite often, I am not very certain. Seems that my wants are always changing. I think Karen is going to slap me one day.

When I see chubby babies, I want to be a mother immediately! When I see kids trying to climb up to the rails, counters, I don't want any children anymore. I see friends walking down the isle, I feel like arranging my own wedding, when I see friends negotiating settlement from their divorce, I swear marriage is no longer promising.

You see the problem? I dont fucking know what I want, does it mean I dont deserve to be in a relationship and seek what I want?

Sigh......

It is such a strange feeling to find out that one of my ex bfs is engaged, even stranger that he was still flirting with me 6 months ago!

Oh shall I say, he tried to flirt with me.

Sigh... I felt sorry for the girl, and I just remembered why did I dump him 7 years ago.

Then another ex got married and had a daughter, when he told me that and deliberately asked if I have put on weight. I told him to pass my deepest condolence to his wife.

Rawr... how come all the assholes that I dumped are living or going to live happily ever after!

HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY!

TO MATT AND JANE

HEHE!

CHEERS!

Last year this time, I was preparing to go back to Malaysia to celebrate my grandpa’s 80th birthday.

During my holiday, Matt smsed me out of sudden at 3am one morning. I did not have him in my contacts, thus I asked ‘Who is this?”. He thought I was a bitch coz I have forgotten him.

The fact is we didn’t keep in touch for more than 3 months, that’s why I deleted him from my contacts. I was not happy at all because I thought what a jerk that he did not contact me for months and wanted to be friends again now.

Long story short, we started talking again and decided to go out on our first date in January. *blush

What Matt doesn’t know, when he decided to contact me again, there were other guys who made the same decisions, they wanted to ask me out again. I don’t know why but I have chosen Matt among the 3 of them at that moment, maybe because he could make me laugh genuinely. I think that’s what you call fate because at that moment I didn’t have any intension of having anything to do with the other guys but Matt.

For our first date, I was 45 mins late hahahaha, I was SOO terrible. Matt thought I wasn’t going to turn up so he walked back to his car and I pulled up right next to him and because I was in such hurry, I hit the curb and Matt later told me he thought I was one of those crazy Asian drivers. ><

Then we had coffee and I took him to Karaoke. Haha I think he fell for me after he heard my lovely voice bwahahaha (beh paiseh)

The awkward moment came when we had to say good bye. I sat on my seat (I was driving) and wondering what would he do. He looked at me awkwardly and waited for me to say something. I said ‘Ok, bye.. nice seeing you tonight’ then he left.

At that moment, I thought “uh oh… I blew it? He probably not going to ask me out again, bluekkk”

He went back to work the next day and smsed me on Friday to ask me out again, Yeeha! Hahaha

Then we went out again, we went to have dinner at Hogsbreath and then to the casino. There we hold each other’s hand and shared the first kiss when we parted the night. *I am gushing with all the sweet memories now….

So that’s how we started dating….. I knew somehow everything happened so fast! Sometimes I do wonder if we have known each other enough to start a relationship.

We never identified one another as bf or gf, it all happened very naturally. He met my friends, they liked him, he liked them and there we go. No “I love you, I want to be with you, will you be my bf/gf” shit

Till one day, it hits me… so I asked him (I am a straight forward person). Then he said ‘yes of course you are my gf and I am your bf’ and he thought it was funny that I had to ask that.

I would say I have experienced many things with Matt that I never came across in my previous relationships. He may not be the sweetest bf that I ever had and he can be as mean as you can imagine when he is angry but I love him somehow hahaha I love his sense of humour, love his dedication to his work (I know some aussies who are total slackers), love his intelligence (he is annoyingly smart!...pfft oh.. except cooking), love his generosity, love his down-to-earth character and most important of all, *drum roll, he doesn’t snore! That’s a bonus!

Of course, he has many bad habits as well, that I think I better not reveal here. Same here, I have lots of bad habits and because we grew up in entirely different cultural background, we do certain things quite differently. Matt has to adapt to Asian eating culture which rice/noodle are our main dishes, I have to adapt to using bloody super hot water to wash dishes, Matt has to adapt to using chopsticks, I have to learn a lot more western recipes, Matt has to adapt to karaoke sessions and I have to learn about footy/cricket, thank GOD we both like soccer and basketball.

Everyday was like a learning curve, all the culture differences did hit me pretty hard and took me sometime to come around and tried to accept them.

What I am trying to say, Matt is not perfect, and nobody is. But sometimes, I choose to appreciate his imperfections because only with his imperfections, he loves me…. J And because of my imperfections, I love him J

I just finished reading a book few days ago, a book called "Marley and Me". It is not a book by one of the big book writers but it is written by a man who had a 'thick skulled' golder lab retriever.

He wrote about what he thought the worst dog in the world; described how the thick-skulled dog changed their lives as a couple; all the hilarius moments the dog created and of course the last moment of the dog.

As a dog lover, I totally felt the writer's heartache when his dog 'passed away'; I used 'passed away' because I always think dog is just like human, and I think they are the 'lucky' human beings on earth. Just like what the writer said, dogs live the way we human beings wish to live; dance like no one is watching; love like there is no tomorrow, there is no racism, no culture differences, no designer brands, be 'young at heart' till the very last moment of your life.

This book made me laugh out loud and cried like a baby, sobbing my heart out when I got to the part when the dog was in the last phase of its life.

I had a dog when I was in primary school, not a pure breed but some random stray dog's baby. My dad decided to take it home because we needed a guard dog for the house. I treated him like a baby. His name was Royal.

Though he's called Royal, but he definitely didn't behave like one. He looked forward to any opportunities to run free from the house, but he would come back when he got hungry and twice he brought back with him some STDs that cost thousands of dollars to cure. My mom hated him!

When he got STD the second time, my dad vowed not to take him to the vet, instead he took him to some secluded area and left him there. Yes, my dad abandoned our dog. I was devastated but as a child, I couldn't say more.

One morning, when I was getting ready to go to school, I had a strange feeling. I felt that Royal was waiting for me, and I would see him when I opened the door. True enough, he was right there, wagging his tail till his butt was shaking, I was over the moon to see him and shocked to his ability to find his way home from such a far place, took him only 4 days. My dad was shocked too and decided to take him to the vet.

Then one day, Royal ran away again, but I wasn't upset because I thought he would be back in the evening for his meal. I was wrong, he didn't come back for the next week, months.....

I was clearing the mails one evening and found a notice from one of the government departments. Apparently they caught Royal and told us to pay $x amount to claim him back. I told my dad to claim him back but he refused, and the notice was given to us a couple of months ago, just that we didn't realise it.

Again, I didn't pursue further..... I thought... maybe that's fate

But I totally regretted it now... I should have forced my dad to try to claim it back because I know if we didn't, Royal will be put to sleep then fed to the animals in zoo.

I am soooo sorry.... I felt sorry because I felt so sad and cried my heart out when Marley died, and he wasn't even my dog but I did not shed a tear for Royal. The loyal dog who always wag his tail till his butt dropped, the dog who is so afraid of water that he would knock me down when I pointed the water hose to him, the dog who would go crazy when I tried to play catching with him, the dog who would share watermelon with me, the dog who would played fire crackers with me, the dog who would push his bowl out to the gate so that outher stray dogs could eat from his bowl, the dog who would hum any dogs that he saw, regardless if it was male or female...

I am sorry Royal, I should have tried harder.....