Since it is getting near to the festive season, let’s talk about LOVE

Remember when we were young, just started falling in love; had crush on our seniors in school; cried over sad romance novel or movies; dreaming to the Cinderella in our imagined romance. Then there was always one question in our mind, “What’s love?”

To be honest, until this moment, I have no idea what defines LOVE, because there are too many types of LOVE.

These are my definitions of LOVE.

LOVE from parents:
- Working 10 hours a day, paid for my education and never asked for any returns.
- Never expected me to be the most successful person but a happy and healthy one.

LOVE from my sister (I don’t have any brothers!):
- Waking up at 3am just to hear my ramblings after I quarrel with bf for the Nth time
- Keeping my darkest secrets from my parents
- Playing pc games with me at 4am even she was heavily pregnant

LOVE from friends:
- Listen to my ramblings everyday and anytime of the day
- Give me a hand whenever I need help
- Laugh at my silly jokes

LOVE from bf:
- Watch a movie with me; a movie that I really wanted to watch, though he had seen it
- Fight like cats and dogs the day before and try to hold my hand the day after
- Stretch out his hand to hold mine when we are getting into a crowd
- Wishing me ‘Happy Halloween’ on my birthday!

Having an Aussie bf is really an eye opening experience, especially with their culture.

I don’t mean to take things for granted, but when I was in Malaysia or when I was dating Asian guys, it was pretty common that guys would pay for the meals and expenses when we were out together. And how often would I say “Thanks for dinner / thanks for tonight / thanks for the movie”? No, hardly! Unless it was special occasion like Valentine’s Day when I was given a big bunch of roses, I would say, thank you!

But with Matt, he is always so THANKFUL!

“Thanks baby for cooking dinner.”
“Thanks for coming over”
“Thanks for the night.”
“Thanks for ironing my clothes.”

He says thank you for whatever I do, I feel appreciated for whatever I have done.

Not long after we got together, he once said “how come you never said thank you whenever I pay for dinner or anything?” Of course he asked in a polite way, and it seriously did not strike me that I have to do that?! Not that I wasn’t thankful, just that I didn’t know I have to express it verbally!

I learned slowly and I now say thank you to whatever he does for me, and he will definitely ‘you’re welcome’

Now we are both so thankful that whenever we speak to one another, we would ask “how are you or how’s your day?” and we will answer “I am good thanks”

Weird? I don’t know, but I think I prefer this than the traditional Asian men who take everything for granted and never say thank you to their wives for cooking, cleaning, ironing and etc.

By doing this, you may think we have overdone it, it is way too official. But it is great to be appreciated, thus we wouldn’t mind going further for one another.

Me: You must tell me that you love me at least once a day!
Matt: Hahaha no then it is no longer precious, I can’t do that
Me: Ermm ok every second day
Matt: Nah, once a week
Me: No
Matt: Ok, twice a week
Me: Deal
Matt: hahaha okok
Me: I can’t believe I am negotiating with my bf on how often he should tell me he loves me!
Matt: Hahahaha you are making me laugh!
Me: Not funny! Oi! Stop laughing!
Matt: Hahahahaha
Me: ……………………………………………

My birthday celebration with the girls on 27/10 :) Thank you Cecilia, Wangmun, Karen, Yen and Wei for the K session. Hahaha I hope we didn't worsen the noise pollution in Perth :p

Crispy buttered fish fillet. This was fantastic! The aroma is so nice and te fish fillet is so crispy.. yum yum

Stir fry Shanghai ramen with XO sauce, it was superb! I really enjoyed this dish, my friends tasted it and they both thought it was good.

Durian pancake :p My Favourite, sorry I was too lazy to edit the picture :)

Some nice dim sum we had. The one on the right was good, some sort of dumpling, I ordered that; I could taste salted fish in that. The one on the left was bad, my sister ordered that. Hahah some cheese dumpling..yuck!

This place is called 'Little Genting' in KL, this area is located in Cheras. Desmond and Alex took me there but we didn't have anything there because many restaurants were closed because of Hari Raya. Nice place, nice weather, wished that the food menu was better. All were Malay style food. ><

Some random conversations that I thought rather interesting:

MSN

Guy X : Hey sexy, i will be in perth next year. See you then. xoxo

Me: Fuck off

(I didn't know who was that, and he wasn't on my list)
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31/10/2007

Matt: Happy Halloween!
Me: ...............................................................
Matt: Bwahahahahaha

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31/10/2007

Dad: Happy birthday!
Me: Thanks dad
Dad: How old are you?
Me: ........ 25
Dad: Huh? So old? Wah... old already
Me: ................................................................

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Me: Tampon is easy to use, trust me... use the one with applicator
Karen: Don't want... it hurts.
Me: It only hurts if you put it wrongly.
Karen: then how to take out huh?
Me: (wah piangz) it comes with a string! you pull it out when you are done!
Karen: Oh..hahahahaha

I swear I wanted to bang my head on the wall

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In Singapore

Matt: You tired?
Me: Yea, I want to have a hot bath
Matt: Yea, then you can also use the bath salt
Me: Lets have a hot bath together
Matt: Can't, it will be too crowded to have both of us in the tub
Me: .................................. (that's the idea, you idiot!)

Please meet my 'so-romantic' bf....

OK, managed to collate all the pictures taken in Singapore. Don't ask me how come there are no pics of me and Matt. Haha we simply dont like taking pictures ><

Watched the Wildcats played against SG Slingers on 04/11/07 at Singapore Indoor Stadium. Matt kept asking me to take the pictures of the girls. Hahaha he kept asking me "What are they wearing!!" Seriously, the costume looked cheap, as in bad quality.

I took baby to Orchard the Monday, and guessed what! They were hosting the same competition again. The contestants had been there for 3 days non stop, yeap! It was pouring on Sunday night so they were all standing in the rain, sticking their hands on the car and were not allowed to sit down. They were only given short toilet breaks once in a while and lunch/dinner break.

Matt told me he could do it because the weather is always so hot at the mine. But it is not the weather baby! You have to stand in the sun without water/food for hours and no shower! I simply told him I can never do it, coz I need my daily showers.

Oh, there was a middle aged woman too. How far would people go to get a free car?

I am very sorry that I haven't put up the pictures taken in KL. I just didn't have time to collate them to put up :p I have been busy.

Just got back from a weekend getaway in Sg with baby, we had a fantastic time there besides the delayed flight and a quarrel><. We bought so many things! Especially clothes, Matt bought at least 10 shirts and several shorts, preparing for summer I suppose.

Whatever he saw, he thought it was cheap, so he basicallybought everything that he thought was nice and could fit him! And he let me buy whatever I wanted hahaha. Thank you baby for the trip and shopping.

So in the end we had to buy extra bags to fit our shopping goodies.

We went to watch Perth Wildcats vs Sg Slingers as planned. It was such a close game and Slingers won. I would say the Wild Cats played pretty badly, baby was so disappointed. We got the court side seats (Thanks to me calling all the way to SG to secure the tickets). We were so close to the court that I actually caught the ball and had to pass it back to the referee. Hehehe

We stayed at the Pan Pacific hotel, which is connected to Suntec Mall and Marina Square, it was a very nice hotel and super convenient, Matt loves SG, he even tried to convince me to move to SG. He asked me to get a job there while he finds a 2 weeks on 2 weeks off job in WA. Then he will see me every 2 weeks in SG. So I have been hunting for apartments in SG since we got back, we are looking at moving to the apartments in Orchard/Holland, somewhere there.

Until now, I haven't finished unpacking my stuff, haven't been sleeping enough, a lot of things to sort out at work, so I havent collated the pictures taken in SG. hehehe

Will post all the pictures on weekend. tada

Soooooo my birthday's gone, another year older but wiser (I hope). I hope I will definitely have a good year ahead, I can see the new comings already!!

Thank you everyone who wished me, especially those who wished me at 1am (Perth time) and made me jumped up from my bed due to the loud sms alert tone.

Thank you for everyone who actually called me to wish me and also those who emailed me to wish me. :)

Had a fantastic night last Friday, dinner and karaoke, for those who couldn't make it, don't worry; I understand.

Thank you the girls and Simon for the Myer's gift card, I definitely will do some shopping there!!!! And special thanks to Simon for getting the gift card?

Also thanks everyone who bought me presents, especially mom and sis!

THANK YOU baby for taking me to Singapore! Yay!!!

Ok..time to go to work...

Sorry that I can't update much because I am extremely busy this week, will have some news release this Friday :p

Ciao!

So, here is the post that everyone been asking me about, my KL trip.

I spent 2.5 weeks in KL, spent most of my time in the banks with my mom, sorting out all the accounts stuff and also going round to try different food. Believe it or not, I was roaming around KL alone most of the time, did the shopping alone, had breakfast/lunch alone and watch dvd alone. Hahahaha a relaxing holiday indeed.

One of the highlights would be my phone got stolen while I was shoe shopping in KLCC, happened in the NOSE shoe shop. I am pretty sure I knew who stole my phone because I noticed them the moment I stepped into the shop, there were two of them, one guy and one girl. I was smsing baby while browsing the shoes, spotted a pair, threw my phone back into my bag (I didn’t zip my bag), picked up the shoes, signalled a sales girl, stretched my hand into bag to pick phone, phone was gone. All happened in less than 2 minutes. Pfft.. so I went back to my mom’s office, called my mobile, a Malay guy answered and hang up quickly. So I smsed him “Please return my phone, I will pretend nothing’s happened and pay you some cash”. No reply, then my sister told me “Iyoh, those stupid Malays, you wrote in English, they wouldn’t understand, must write in Malay!”. I totally did not realise that fact!

Sigh… so I spent the money that I prepared to buy 2 PSPs, one for me, one for Matt as Xmas present; to buy my phone (N95). L now I have to think what to get baby for Xmas

OK... will stop here. I will post Part 2 later, I have to go to bed now.. yawn

I am now sitting at Dome KLIA, waiting to board the flight back to Perth in 5 minutes.

A few incidents happend at Dome while I was having my tea, crying children, spilled drinks, broken cup. Very often, we would expect these incidents are caused by those Malaysian from the lower socia economic group that hardly travel. Surprisingly all the incidents happend at Dome 10 minutes ago were all caused by western foreigners.

Haha... maybe because there were hardly any Malaysians here, maybe they still prefer mamak stalls and their Kopi - O..

Ok, I wish myself to have a safe flight.

I got some really bad news yesterday, my godmother's son is diagnosed with cancer. He is only 42 year-old with 3 young kids, the eldest is 12 and the youngest is not even schooling.

Lately, I came acrossed many incidents that taught me to treasure what I have and live like there is no tomorrow. To be honest, Asians (especially Chinese) are brought up to plan everything. Before we were born, our parents already thought of our name, who should be our godparents; after we were born, they plan which language should be our mother tongue, which kindy to go; then when we turned 4, which primary school should we attend, Malay or Chinese school; should we learn piano, painting; sports or tuition. Then when we finished primary school, we have to decide what do we want to do as career because you have to either pick science stream or art stream; in college, we had to pick to do either local uni program, Aust prog, British or USA prog. And the planning goes on......

Right now, people who are at the same age as me are planning about their future, such as marriage, housing, retirement. Most of them are thinking of how to save enough money so that they don't have to work and achieve financial freedom. And they are doing a tremendous job to move forward to their dreams.

For the people who told me 'to live like there is no tomorrow' are the people who hardly make ends meet, or people who do not have anything to guarantee their debt-free home and retirement.

Maybe you can argue by saying living like there is tomorrow can be applied on other things, such as relationship. But I also believe that you will be thinking things like 'I want to plan a trip together to improve our relationships', 'maybe we should start saving more so we can rent a better place to live together'; all these are plannings. Of course there are short term plannings and long term plannings

For me, I could never live like there is no tomorrow, because I believe if I live like that, there will definitely be no tomorrow that I wish to live.

Went to this Vietnamese restaurant with my mom. We ordered one of the chef's special, 'stuffed quid'.

The squid is stuffed with mince pork, potatoe and yam. Taste ok but the squid is damn tough, felt like chewing rubber band.

Rating: 5/10







Sorry, my hand shook when I took this picture. This is my favourite, "net spring roll", not those ang mo spring rolls we get in Perth.

The spring roll wrap was like a net with holes, stuffed with fresh mince pork and vegetables.

The wrap is so crispy that taste soooo yummy, crispy yet it melted in my mouth.

Rating: 9/10

Sigh.. wanted to update my blog with some interesting food pics. Damn blogger wouldn't let me upload due to some errors. Oh well, another time :)

My new toy :) Nokia N95

I have eaten a lot of good food back here in KL., i.e. rice liquor crab, seafood, durian and many more. surprisingly I haven't gained alot of weight so far, phew! Maybe I did but I am in denial..bluek

Anyway, the hot thing in KL now is 'China girls'... * eyes rolling. A couple of my parents' friends have kept China women as their mistress. One has a permanent mistress and he keeps her in an apartment, another one will travel to Seremban to find this girl who works as a prostitute.

The amazing thing is everyone in the neighbourhood knows about it yet his wife doesn't know (the one who goes to Seremban). This bastard was so bad that he even took a photo of the girl and showed it to my mom! Erm.. the girl was semi naked. So I questioned my mom, why didn't she tell his wife, my mom said it is not right to break someone's family apart. My mom told me the wife heard the rumours yet she didn't bother to verify. I guess she was just afraid to know the truth because they have been married for so long and now only the husband decided to f*** someone else.

This particular bastard even told them that he has to take viagra with Guinese Stout before he has sex witht he girl and he doesn't use condom. EEeewwww....

So no wonder majority of the Malaysian women hate China girls so much.

I better ask Matt if there are any China girls at his mine site... pfft

Sometimes I do wonder how does 'death' feel? Sometime I lie in bed and wonder how does it feel to slit my wrist and let the blood flow.

Sometimes I feel that I have endured too much that I wish to see the finishing line.

Sometimes I doubt that the tunnel has an exit.

Sometimes I doubt that there is heaven.

For sure I would indulge in some shopping back in KL. Have a look at the things I have bought. :p I refuse to check my bank account in Perth :s







Sony Vaio FZ15G. Loving the sleek and light-weight design. I didn't go for the top end specs because I didn't think I need them thus I refuse to pay another 2k for things I didn't need.

Sony Cybershot, 8.1mp, light-weight with touch screen features. It is actually for my parents and I am keeping my devoted Canon Ixux 4mp. I am not complaining about my canon ixus, the camera never failed me once, still giving me clear pictures.

Unfortunately, my parents haven't mastered in using all the features that come with this new camera.

Met up with one of my buddies today, went to a mamak stall to have the authentic 'roti canai' and 'maggie mee goreng'. The food was so cheap, 2 roti, 1 mee and 2 drinks cost us only RM9.20, which is AU$3. Wahaha.. I LOVE good deals

As usual, we talked about our bfs, I believe there are problems in every relationship. She is worried about her bf's future, how are they heading; I am worried about 'our' future, where are we heading.

Often, we see our friends or people around us happily in-love and we think they are going to be happy forever. However, there could be some problems that we don't see; who knows what's happening behind closed doors?

It is within human nature that we only see what we want to see, we see the good sides of a matter and we would like to have it; totally ignoring the short coming, self asssure that we can be as good. Are we in denial again?

I admit I often compare my relationship to others, I know I shouldn't but I just couldnt help it. I often tell myself, I ain't perfect so I do not expect my bf to be the perfect person.


Sometimes, I see my friends being so in love and happy, I will then compare Matt to their bfs and think 'sigh... why can't he be that sweet and loving'. Then when my friends get upset with their bfs, I will think 'Wow, I am glad Matt isn't like that'.

I know I know! I am a total hypocrite because I am expecting Matt to be perfect. I am glad I know my weakness and things that I am doing wrong and learn to appreciate Matt more though he still likes to tease me and sees me getting angry. Pfft.. !

Whenever I am upset with Matt, I will share with my best friends, I am surprise they can always remind me the good things that Matt has done for me. I think it is also within the human nature to pick up negative things when we are upset and totally forgetting the good things that have happened.

Sometimes I do feel scare that our relationship may not last, I think the more I treasure it, the more afraid I would get. I love Matt, thus I believe that's why I am afraid to lose him. No, I am not afraid to admit that I love my bf. So if you feel this is too much, you can f*** off now.

I am trying to learn to compare less and ignore what others comment about my relationship because I know better than anyone else that Matt and I are putting in effort to make the relationship works and we try not to give up even when we feel like killing one another.

They wouldn't know what is happing to us behind our closed door!

I know this post is totally irrelevant to my KL trip, but heck, this is MY blog.